It's been close to 3 years since the exhilaration of seeing the Illinois General Assembly pass the civil union law and so very much has changed to make this country a more fair and equal place for lesbians and gay men. Even 3 years ago civil unions were not the end goal, but the Illinois legislature’s passage of that law still meant a great deal to us back then. We’d moved in Illinois from treating gays as criminals to be punished or deviants to be pitied to an understanding that lesbians and gays – like heterosexuals -- form loving committed families that our laws should recognize and protect. We couldn’t go as far as marriage, but civil unions were acceptable for the Illinois legislature at the end of 2010. But with great progress in states outside Illinois, changes in federal law and policy, and the sea change of public opinion across this country and in Illinois, it’s a lot harder to get excited about civil unions than it was 3 years ago.